“FREE. Feel your emotions/think your thoughts fully. Release your thoughts and emotions. Enjoy your new state. Engage in the moment to take responsibility and make effective choices.”
The forgiveness card. Not surprising considering the time of year that we are entering into. Often, I hear stories about how hard it is when families come together for the holidays. Old dynamics come into play, someone feels left out, grudges, past hurt feelings in the way of the “whole” family coming together, and missing our loved ones who have gone home to rest. It is true, the holidays are hard. Compassion is needed. We never know the struggles that someone else is carrying, especially if we aren’t honest about what we are toting around ourselves. This week we are being encouraged to take stock, move into forgiveness and free up some room in our own hearts, so that we can be more compassionate and understanding even towards the more difficult people and family members in our own lives. Forgiveness isn’t something that is taught in school, and in the end, we each have our own way. What I can offer is what has worked for me. I love to journal, or write letters (often never sent) and give to the paper the energy that is clouding my heart. And to effectively reach that place of openness and forgiveness I use a four step process that I call RAGS. Start writing by RECOGNIZING the players, participants and the events that are weighing you down. Be specific and get the “story” all out, details written out really help empty the heart. Keep writing until you begin to ACCEPT your role in the events, and the lessons that you have learned about another, yourself and the world. Keep writing still, until you come to a place of GRATITUDE where you can actually thank the people/players/situation for those lessons learned. And then when you feel complete, SURRENDER the people/players/situation to the Universe. Typically I write, “I release you, I release me.” And often, for good measure, I burn what I have written…trusting that the smoke carries that energy to the heavens, transmuted and cleansed leaving only more room for love in my heart. It is true, that the process of forgiveness can be painful. But it really is simple. And on the other side, the reward is lightness, love and more respect for yourself and others. The Courage Cards this week are asking us to get our hearts in order for the season ahead. A tall order, but a necessary one, so that we can find compassion for those that are hurting this time of year…and also so we aren’t “that person” that is the cause of the drama or the grudge or the disconnect that families so often experience. Let’s be responsible this year, and give ourselves the gift of forgiveness.